Here are just some of the many lessons I have learned from Garth over the past three years:
1. It is possible to fall deeply-head first-instantaneously in love with someone.
I know a lot of people thought we were crazy from the start! But I just couldn't help myself. I never thought I would go on vacation with my boyfriend's family after we had only been dating for a week. I never thought I would fantasize about marrying this guy that I had barely met. I never thought I would be engaged to the man of my dreams after only knowing him for 2 months. And I certainly never thought I would feel so comfortable and sure about everything as it all cascaded out of my control. Call it crazy, it really was. Crazy romantic.
2. Love is easy.
Well at least loving him is the easiest thing I have ever done.
3. Fighting is not romantic.
Or necessary. Garth refuses to fight with me. Believe me, i've tried. I feel like I know so many couples (including myself in past dysfunctional relationships) who have spent their relationship breaking up and getting back together, and then breaking up and getting back together. Some people think that is romantic. Good for them, but in all seriousness, it's not.
4. You can do anything you want to in this life.
As cheesy as that sounds, before I met Garth I was stuck in university pursuing something I didn't actually want. I feel like he woke me up and helped me realize that what I want is actually worth pursuing. And now, instead of being in school to become an opera singer, or a music teacher, (while both admirable professions, they are just not for me) I am in the studio, about to release an album that I wrote and recorded. Oh and I'm a mom. So there goes two of my biggest dreams at once. My music is important, my music is good. Garth makes me feel like I can do anything, he makes me feel fearless.
5. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you.
I don't know why, but I have spent a good while doing things in my life that people think I should do. Garth has taught me not to waste my time with people who don't believe in you, or don't like you for whatever reason or who are just downright mean. If someone doesn't like me or my music or my sarcasm, or the fact that I wear a headband pretty much everyday, or that sometimes I wear leggings as pants. Who cares? I like all of it and I'm never going to stop until I want to. And that is okay.
6. Compliment people.
Garth is such a nice guy and is always the first one to tell someone they look great, or that he likes their hair/dress/shoes. Compliments are a dying art in today's world, and I love that he makes people feel good about themselves everyday.
7. You can have fun shopping with your husband.
Growing up with a father who would rather sleep in the van for 3 hours while all his girls shopped, I never expected to have a husband who would love shopping with me. He loves seeing me try on clothes, he knows all of my favorite stores, brands, even the makeup that I wear. He is very involved in every aspect of my life and I love that he cares. He will say things like "your wings look heavenly today"(Referring to my eyeliner) or "Your makeup looks so good, is that the Naked 2 palette?" My favorite happened a couple weeks ago when he got home from work and the first thing he said was "Did you do a facemask tonight, your skin is glowing!" It makes me smile to know he cares and pays so much attention to me. He knows I care about silly things like that so he takes the time to learn more about what I love.
8. It's okay to be needy sometimes
Over the past three years I have realized that every couple needs different things and functions differently. Some couples do everything together and have all the same interests while others are okay with going off and doing their own thing most of the time, they need alone time. Well, Garth and I have a hard time being away from each other. Ever since the day we met, we have had a tremendously hard time being separated. That is probably the main reason I went on family vacation with him one week after we started dating. I knew he wouldn't go without me. The longest we have ever been apart from one another was a week and I seriously didn't know what to do with myself by the end of it, it was miserable. I get made fun of for this by my family but Garth is just as bad so I know he doesn't mind haha. It's not that we don't have our own interests or can't function by ourselves, we just prefer to do that when we know the other one is just in the other room haha.
9. I am the most beautiful girl in the world.
I have always been a self-confident person in life, but my self confidence has grown immensely since I met Garth. Not because I needed his approval or affection to feel confident and beautiful, but because he taught me how to completely love myself and my body. Sometimes it was hard to do so when I went through the drastic changes of pregnancy and then into post-pregnancy, but he never stopped thinking and telling me that I was the most beautiful girl in the world, so I believed it. He has been such a sweet, loving and kind husband and I think every girl deserves to feel the way he makes me feel.
10. Love your life, and make the best of every situation.
Anytime our plans don't work out the way we planned, we always still manage to have the best time and I know that that is 100% Garth's doing. Anybody who knows him knows that he is the happiest guy you will ever meet. I have learned from him that if you combine hardwork with positivity, you will go very far in life. I have watched him and seen it for myself. I look up to his positivity and drive so much and I will always strive to be like him.
I am so grateful for my husband, for the lessons that he has taught me in our short time together and I can't wait for everything that we will experience and learn together over the years to come.